New Year Resolutions
To be honest when I think of people making New Year's resolutions I always silently shudder. To my mind, if you wanted to do something you would have already made...
Coercive Control
As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming whether it was manipulation, flattery, violence, or other ways, simply so the abuser could...
Resolution
If you are deciding on how you wish to confront your abuser, please be aware that as emotions will be running at an all-time high, deciding something of this importance...
Never Give Up
I dedicate this blog to Malcolm Richards. It’s almost unbelievable how difficult trying to get somewhere with your abuse can be. From hoping that people will understand what it is you have...
Puzzle Solved
Ever wondered why you struggle with certain areas in your life? It could be when it comes to speaking out, or joining in, or having confidence, even feeling connected or even...
Finding You
In the process of recovering from your abuse you will notice the impacts on you. Though these differ from survivor to survivor, there is one that is not often recognised, let...
Being Heard
Wanting your voice heard can sometimes be buried deep within, and therefore not always obvious, you were, after all, taught it wasn’t safe to use it. Probably, anytime you tried you...
It’s Not Your Fault
Every survivor everywhere has been conditioned to believe that the sexual abuse they suffered as a child, was their fault. That they somehow ‘made it happen’, so if that is...
Being Believed
One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but usually begins with Are you Sure? He or She...
Justifying
As survivors if we are sharing what happened to us, some of us have this habit of justifying the truth when discussing with others. This has to stop. We need to
Power and Suvivors
For some of us, feeling confident when dealing with powerful people just doesn’t happen. The fear, the paralysis can be so strong that even finding words is a struggle. This also has
Having your own back
Having your own back as a survivor is not without its challenges. WE are conditioned from the time our abuse began, to put our needs last and not value what our
Self-Sabotage
What does it even mean, and where does it stem from? It sounds quite intellectual, but it’s not. It’s basically when we do things that block our success and prevent good things
Feeling Proud
If you talk to the average person about proud moments in their lives, chances are they could probably list a few. Part of being human you would have thought, the…
Invisible
It’s almost impossible to be visible when a key part of our existence has been hiding in the dark. Being a survivor of child sexual abuse means that we become as unwelcome as the truth and when the words finally emerge, the reaction to it ensures we move further back into the shadows.
Disappointment
Feeling disappointed and then accepting it is one of life’s many challenges.
Commonly appearing as a person letting us down, or something we hadn’t anticipated, disappointment is part of who we are…
